While the following story did not occur here in Columbus, Ohio, it still demonstrates what not to do when you go through a divorce.
Most of the celebrity gossip in the past few days has been focused on the split of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, and understandably so -- but not necessarily for the reason you may be expecting. Yes, they were a celebrity couple which always makes for a good headline. But in this case, it wasn't their status as stars that made the Paltrow-Martin split the center of attention. Instead, it was the phrase Paltrow used to describe their split.
As many Columbus residents have likely noticed, the realm of divorce news tends to attract the bizarre and the weird. More than anything this has to do with the way divorce is portrayed by news outlets and blogs -- but there is a kernel of truth to the portrayal. Divorce is inherently a tumultuous and emotional time that can make people feel stressed out. As a result, people do outlandish things or deviate from their "normal" behavior. This can result in poor decisions, but it can also result in arguments with a soon-to-be-ex or a prolonged debate about certain aspects involved in their divorce.
While the source article for this blog post is for financial advisors -- hey, even the advisors need some advice every now and then -- it raises an important point about prenuptial agreements. Prenups have been a common theme on this blog, and for good reason. They are vital contracts that are far more socially-acceptable than they were 30 years ago.
It used to be that prenuptial agreements were considered ironclad documents that were nearly impossible to challenge. The documents would be signed before a couple walked down the aisle, and all the contents of the document would be appropriately enforced in case of a divorce. If that divorce were to happen, the spouses may not fully understand what is still contained in their prenup -- years may have passed since they last looked at it.
Imagine for a moment that you are young and in love. You and your significant other decide to get married -- but before you do that, the two of you think that the time has come to live together. To both of you, this isn't that big of a deal. After all, you've been dating for more than a year. What is there to fear?
Many people who are getting married are so swept up in the furor over their wedding that they either forget or simply ignore one critical aspect: the prenuptial agreement. This contract is absolutely vital in this age of divorce, and there really are few good reasons why you would want to avoid signing one. In truth, it may be the negative perception of prenuptial agreements that convince people that they shouldn't sign one, or even bring up the topic to their significant other.
It has become one of the most important questions of our time, at least in terms of divorce law: is social media a helpful tool or an alluring menace? The question could be posed more generally to society as a whole, but with divorce, it is an especially important query. Social media can absolutely ruin a person's divorce case, and it could even impact your life after a divorce agreement has been finalized.
In one of the more extreme divorce stories you will ever hear, a man's ex-wife hired a maintenance worker to kill him. The plot failed, and the man's ex-wife was arrested in July 2012 for trying to hire a hit man to kill her ex-husband. Possibly in a more stunning twist though, the woman still has retained custody of their 8-year-old daughter.
Researchers may have found a way to keep married couples together and, hence, lower the divorce rate: just watch more movies. Wait, what?