Even though Halloween is two weeks away, it’s never too early for parents to start thinking about the holiday season. November and December can be the most contentious and emotionally draining months of the year, but it does not have to be this way. After all, the holiday season is for good tidings and cheer. Why waste time fighting?
The following tips will help you make the most of your holidays and avoid spats when things don’t go as planned.
Flexibility is the key – It is important to remember that the season is made up of a collection of days (and events). With so much time, be flexible about when you can celebrate with your kids. Even if you have to celebrate Thanksgiving dinner on black Friday or Christmas on December 26th, don’t worry. As long as you are there and have fun, your kids will appreciate it.
Compromise for the kids’ sake – Parents should put their personal strife aside to make sure the holidays are memorable for their kids. More importantly, they should be able to compromise if there are disputes with pickup and drop-off or family gatherings. Remember, kids want the best for their parents during the holidays as well. They are happier when you are not stressed out fighting with your ex.
Know how your order works – Most divorce decrees have specific details parenting time during the holidays. Commonly, parents alternate holidays (e.g. Christmas Eve with dad’s family, Christmas Day with mom’s family). If you have questions about your order, be sure to address them as soon as possible.
Source: About.com, How to Negotiate the Holiday Schedule You Want