Many couples are torn when they face divorce. On the one hand, people often want to avoid the conflict, time and costs associated with traditional divorce. On the other hand, there are significant questions about mediation. Will I have to do it on my own? What if my spouse takes advantage of me and I lose out financially?
It is important to know that determining the details of your divorce through mediation is not the same as doing it on your own.
The Fears of Mediation
Many people envision mediation as a one-on-one meeting with the other person. Sitting there trying to figure out every detail of a divorce agreement together with no outside input or help. This can be an extremely intimidating proposition, especially if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse cannot communicate together well on your own.
If mediation worked in this way, it would make sense to avoid it in most cases.
The Truth About Mediation
The truth is that mediation is an extremely valuable tool for establishing the details of a divorce decree. In most cases in which a couple chooses to engage in the mediation process cooperatively, it works out very well for everyone involved.
Do not be concerned about having to face your spouse alone in mediation. The process involves a neutral mediator who facilitates the mediation, and it also involves each party represented by an individual attorney.
In the mediation process, you will have your attorney there with you as well as the neutral. Your attorney will be able to help you understand what would be expected if the case went to court, so you can be sure to get good counsel and that your rights will be protected. Further, with your attorney and the neutral present, you can be assured that you will not get bullied in the mediation sessions.
So do not be afraid of mediation. Divorcing couples have been using mediation for a number of years now, and in the majority of cases it proves to be a strong tool for creating a divorce decree that works for everyone involved, in a simpler, more efficient process.