Most people have some memories from the first day of school. Excitement, nervousness and anxiety all tangle up in a big ball of emotions. A new school year brings about new friends, new teachers and a new schedule. It’s a lot to take in. Children are especially vulnerable during this time. They are hitting growth spurts, learning life lessons and dealing with unique challenges.
If you and your spouse are considering a divorce at the time, you are both facing new and unique changes as well. You want to be strong for your children, but on the inside, there might be an ongoing battle with the other parent.
Is it okay to seek a divorce at the beginning of the school year?
Talk to your spouse (in private)
Separating spouses sometimes benefit from keeping their divorce details private. This is a completely normal desire. You wouldn’t want the whole world looking in on your personal life. It’s important to remember this when children are around, as well. They have enough going on, and the divorce will be emotionally taxing on them, too.
Refrain from fighting and talking about your relationship problems in front of the children. You and your spouse can see a therapist, counselor or divorce attorney, but keep the details to yourselves.
Talk to the teachers
You, your child and the teacher would benefit from clear communication. Most teachers want to accommodate families who are going through a hard time. It’s okay to let your child’s teacher know you’ve started the divorce process. You may even want to have separate meetings with the teacher.
In addition, you should wait to use the word divorce or separate until you have both officially decided. At the right time, it will be important for your children to know what is happening. Children will sometimes feel confused and anxious after hearing the news. However, your calmness, support and encouragement can comfort them.