Child custody disputes are already terrible experiences for parents and children. The emotional games (and fallout) that come about can be more than one can bear. What can be done when a parent is dealing with a case of parental alienation syndrome (PAS), and no one believes him or her? This is question is especially difficult considering that it is not recognized as psychological disorder, and is commonly dismissed by custody evaluators and family court judges alike.
Because parental alienation syndrome is such an undefined disorder, it is important to understand what the symptoms are and how to separate them from basic emotions that are an unfortunate part of high-conflict divorces. PAS is typically manifested through:
•- Children being forced to choose one parent over another, or the alienating parent punishes the child for wanting to spend time with the other parent.
•- The alienating parent telling the children that all of their problems are the other parent’s fault.
•- The alienating parent creates (or does not correct) false abuse allegations against the other parent.
If you have experienced these situations with an ex-spouse or significant other, you are not alone. Nevertheless, it is important to learn how to describe an alienator’s actions in a clear, unbiased manner to custody evaluators and to the court. Also, attending parenting classes can help with critical thinking so that you do not get trapped playing an alienator’s games.
If you have questions about parental alienation syndrome and how you can move past it, an experienced family law attorney can help.
Source: Smart StepFamilies.com, Parenting Alienated Children: Dealing with Parental Alienation Syndrome